Jun
21
Tip #3 for preventing eating disorders in your daughter.
Do you or your daughter wonder what other people are thinking or saying about you? I like the way @Dr Phil puts it. “If you knew how rarely others thought about you, you wouldn’t worry about it.”
Other people are so concerned about their own life, I assure you they have little time to spend thinking about us. They are worrying about how little Teresa is doing on her test, or if their boyfriend is going to call or what they will make or have for dinner… it just goes on and on!
Jenny, a past client worried A LOT about what others thought. So much so, she couldn’t have much of a conversation. She was nervous around others and couldn’t just be herself. We worked on that and one of the things I tell my clients is “You are not the center of the Universe.” She told me she was at a party and she got nervous and repeated to herself, “I am NOT the center of the Universe, I am NOT the center of the Universe.” I had to laugh because that is what it takes, PRACTICE, to change how you see and perceive the world.
Also, what IF they do think something like “Boy, she is an idiot.” Then what happens? Nothing. She thinks it, you don’t know what she is thinking and you both go on with your life. And not with her in it. 
When you are thinking someone else is putting you down, you are wasting your time and PROJECTING your thoughts of yourself on someone else. More on that one later.
If you worry about what others are thinking of you, you might just stay at home and overeat, binge and purge or restrict and not go out.
Do you have other ways to deal with this that would be helpful to others? We love helpful comments.
Sue
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