Let Go Of The Scale & Get A LIfe! – Teleclass

Friendships: WHEN TO STAY AND WHEN TO GO

Having Close, Healthy Friendships

Many people with eating disorders have a difficult time establishing and maintaining friend relationships. We will explore what gets in the way of making friends. Are you shy? Is your child shy? Do you have many “friends” but none of them are “close” friends? Do you think it is just too hard? It hurts too much?It is not a coincidence that many ED’s start when in junior high and high school. Learn why and what you can do to help your daughter with this issue. And if you “haven’t left home either emotionally or latterly… learn why and what to do about it.

Speaking Up and HAVING A VOICE

You know how something bothers you and it just keeps going around and around in your head? Maybe you think “I should have said …” How do we stand up for ourselves? You will learn what assertiveness REALLY is. How to say no, set boundaries and stand up for yourself.

FEELINGS: Do You Wish They Would Go Away?

They Can If You Use an ED to Deal With Them… For Awhile Anyway

This is perhaps the most important skill for all people to learn. Do you often feel overwhelmed and unable to cope? Just can’t quite handle it all – always too small, not big enough, too young and constantly incompetent? Or do you have a child that is “sensitive” and seems to be often overpowered by events and social situations? We will delve into strategies to manage our feelings and not let them manage us.

Perfection Doesn’t Exist

Do You TRY TOO HARD?

Let us discuss the problems related to feeling at the mercy of impossible expectations. We will provide methods for ending the ways in which we set ourselves up for self disappointment. We will identify the keys to liking yourself the way you are, how to use them and how to teach your child to do the same. In recognizing your extraordinary and unique self, you can realize that you are NOT average and see how to not settle for that false belief.

Are You and Your Mom or Your Child the Same?

I BET NOT!

This is about distinguishing and really seeing yourself or your child. Who are you or who is your daughter? Is your perception of your child clouded and distorted by what you want her to be? Do you understand what will make her happy or what will make you happy? Everyone knows what they want to do with their life. Unfortunately, they also have learned many reasons why they can’t or shouldn’t do it. This is about teaching you or your child to acknowledge and appreciate who each of you are.

I Just Need to LOSE WEIGHT!

(Never Enough)

Why do so many women spend so much time talking and worrying about their bodies? What happens when we devote large amounts of time, energy, thought and resources to an intangible, possibly misrepresentative and unrealistic view of our body? How many times do we engage in body fault finding and how often do your daughters hear the litany of what’s wrong with our bodies? Let’s examine ways to put the body image issue in perspective. We will share insights about body awareness as well as how to acquire and nourish a strong image. So you feel better and so do our daughters, nieces and granddaughters.

What Sort of Families Have EATING DISORDERS in Them?

Family – We All Have One

Let’s take a look at the characteristics of families whose members have eating disorders. We will examine how to recognize family behaviors that might foster an eating disorder. Once we identify these issues, we’ll focus on what we do about it and how we create positive change. This is about how to have a great family system that works well for everyone.

LOVE RELATIONSHIPS

Do you feel confident in relationships? Do you know how to have a healthy one? Are you teaching this to your daughter? This is how she learns to date, mate and procreate, (if she wants to). I also specialize in relationship issues. Let’s see what really works and why you might have the same pattern THAT DOESN’T WORK!

MEAN GIRLS and BULLIES

We will deal with the issue of MEAN GIRLS and MEAN WOMEN. Learn what to say, how to say it and what body language to use when dealing with a bully. Why might they be picking on you? What can you do about it?

PEOPLE PLEASING

They Will Think I Am…

Many times people with eating disorders spend a lot of time trying to please others – not taking care of themselves – not acknowledging their needs. Then they use food to deal with the consequences of self-neglect.

Are You Scared That You Don’t Know What and When to Feed Your Baby?

What are the signals that your baby is hungry? What’s a feeding schedule and do we use one? How much and what should my child eat? How do we reduce anxiety concerning caring and feeding our children? These are all important concerns. In this class we will review effective ways to provide nourishment for our child. This accurate information will enhance our own feeling of parental competence, reduce fear and promote a healthy bond based upon well-being.

How Do We Feed Our Children So That They Eat Enough But Not Too Much?

How does a child behave when she is “full” – how do we recognize it – and what do we do? If a child demonstrates that she is full, has she really consumed enough to maintain health, thrive and grow? How do we provide adequate nutrition while making sure that children eat valuable foods so that “full” is the result of good nourishment – not empty fillers? How can we create healthy relationships in our children?

Have an Influence on Your Difficult Teen’s Eating

For many of today’s teens, the influence of a parent is minimized by the louder voices of peers and the media. All proclaiming society’s persistently demanding messages about appearance and consumption while creating impossible images and expectations. How can a parent possibly compete with all that very attractive, powerful noise? We can learn to provide a shelter from the chaos with meals of substance and care; setting the example by our own healthy relationship with food; focusing on communication skills that establish an atmosphere of positive choices where food does not become an issue surrounded with conflict. These parenting methods that can help you to become your child’s “go to” resource.

Does Eating Fat Make You Fat?

So much of what we read, view and hear discusses in detail “fat” related issues – BIG, BAD FAT. Everyone and everything is so FAT FOCUSED. Have we come to believe that all FATs are harmful? Not only are we are obsessed with all things FAT, we are confused and often misinformed about the many different kinds of fats. We will explore the role of fat in the body’s use of food. Are there good fats and some bad fats, some that we SHOULD eat and other we should avoid – and why.

Get Rid of Sugar Cravings Without Relying on Willpower Alone

When your body and your mind cry out for something sweet that you simply must have NOW – what can you do? Do we fall victim to a craving or do we manage it. While willpower can be effective underneath those cravings are often unmet nutritional needs. Instead of relying on determination alone let’s look at the underlying causes. In addition our cravings can vary depending on many factors – stress level, exhaustion, hunger, etc. Let’s examine more strategies to face the sugar demon – the more tools we have to use – the more likely we are to banish the sweet tooth.

To Carb or Not to Carb?

To fad diet or not to fad diet? Will eliminating carb-full foods work wonders and result in that wonderful, lean body? Or will that no-carb menu lead to unintended consequences possibly harming our general well-being and health? We learn about carbohydrates, their nutritional value and how to achieve carb-balance in our food choices.

Eating Healthy With a Busy Schedule

Many feel that eating healthy is difficult enough even in the best of times – when all the demands of life seem more or less stable. But add the confusion of hectic schedules, a stressful job, a ringing cell phone saying “I need you right this instant…” – and healthy meals seem hopelessly unattainable. Not so! We will discuss ways to provide ourselves with nutritionally sound food FAST. We’ll learn to plan, prepare and what to do when all else fails. Yes, there are healthy fast food choices… and more beneficial, easy ways to eat well.

Healthy Weight Without Deprivation

What is food restriction and why does it fail as a strategy to manage weight? It seems like the old crime and punishment cycle: you eat what you think you want so very much – maybe that high caloric treat that is oh so forbidden – you are bad and weak, you’ve done the crime so do the time. NO MORE of that yummy, deprive yourself forevermore. Live in self-imposed punishment. This faulty means of trying to gain control sets you up to fail and perpetuates the cycle. We will discuss a better way that works.

Avoiding the Afternoon Energy Crash

We will learn about why we crash – how we can preempt it – and what we can do to sustain our energy level. What foods can help us maintain strength throughout the day? How can we anticipate possible energy drops and what to do to remedy the situation?

Set Yourself Up With Eating to Avoid Bingeing

What happens when our feelings – our pain – our emotions – are so big, so overwhelming that we try to eat them away? This class is about mindful recognition and acknowledgement of our own body’s signals, our feelings and making conscious responses. We can build ourselves, our bodies to attain self-confidence and skills that enable us to eliminate self-destructive patterns. Food is not the enemy nor is it the solution.

Is There Such a Thing as Being Too Healthy?

What happens when we become obsessed with all things HEALTHY? Can we exercise, restrict those bad foods, limit those calories to the extreme? What are the consequences when all we do is exercise – exercise – and more exercise – then when we aren’t exercising we are feeling guilty about not exercising? IF SOME is GOOD then MORE MUST BE BETTER. Sometimes we lose our balance when we think we are doing all that we can/should do to attain the perfect level of health, the perfect body. If we are so busy chasing perfection, what are we are we running from and what are we leaving behind?

Free Yourself From Emotional Eating

Food is that wonderful necessity that is so often misused. “Don’t cry – don’t be upset, here have a cookie.” How many times have we heard that or said that? The cookie doesn’t dry the tears or solve the problem. It just distracts us from that uncomfortable issue, that terrible feeling, the emotion that brought those tears. We will discuss the skills needed to take care of ourselves – feelings and all – without using food to avoid life’s difficult issues.